The array of kinky play we can get ourselves into ranges far and wide, but there’s one thing most of us can agree on-- it’s the connection that makes the hottest scenes!
In the ideal play scenario, you’re connected to yourself, connected to your partner(s), and connected to your environment. You’re in “the zone.” It’s what can make the touch of a feather and the touch of a single tail feel like the same stroke and why you can feel your partner’s breath on your ear while reading an email of their orders. It’s why a good scene can feel like so much more than play and why practitioners will speak of it as a solo sexual liberation practice, a healing ritual, or a spiritual experience!
So how do you get there?
A loving and experienced play partner will undoubtedly help. And it’s always hard to turn down a new beautiful piece of gear, but losing yourself in the pleasures of kink really starts by finding yourself in your breath and your body.
Come join me at the Armory Club for Conscious Kink, a sensual midweek yoga journey to connect and elevate your play! Expect breathwork, meditation, and various options for movement as well as a closing discussion to process how to get safely connected to the body and engage with others. This class will be accessible to any level of familiarity with yoga or kink.
Please, bring a yoga mat and be able to sit on it comfortably for an hour. We apologize that the Armory Club event space is not wheelchair accessible.
We live in a world where trauma exists.
Its causes range from purposeful, systematic, and institutionally validated, to accidental. It can be caused by many thing—from complex unintended side effects of other healing practices to just bad timing.
Without a doubt, the likelihood of sustaining trauma increases with the number of marginalized identities one holds, reminding us that—with the addition of a more intersectional lens—the personal is still political.
I would argue there are few things more personal than trauma. As a feminist healer, I have seen how it wreaks havoc on the most intimate level, violating us down to our nervous systems.
I also believe that healing can be one of our most liberating political acts. It is a place where we can take back and take up space, finding ways to operate that are not dictated by oppressors and, rather, are guided by our innate right to safety, intimacy, sexual wellness, and connection.
If you missed the live webinar you can still purchase and view Dating & Sex After Trauma through Everyday Feminism's School for Social Justice.
Know that by even entertaining the thought that there are experiences for you (or your partner) outside of survival, you have already started the journey towards them!
With hope and trust,