Ethical Non-Monogamy 101: Exploring Love, Abundance & Accountability
Aug
7
12:00 PM12:00

Ethical Non-Monogamy 101: Exploring Love, Abundance & Accountability

Challenge Toxic Relationship Beliefs & Understand What’s Right For You


“LOVING OPENLY AND FREELY IS A POLITICAL ACT. PUT TOGETHER YOUR OWN VISION OF AN IDEAL RELATIONSHIP, RESCULPT YOUR OWN BELIEF SYSTEM, REDEFINE THE POTENTIAL OF A FRIENDSHIP, IMAGINE A THOUSAND WAYS TO MAKE LOVE TO YOURSELF AND ANYONE YOU CARE ABOUT. AND WHILE YOU’RE AT IT, RE-INVENT YOUR GENDER, SEXUAL PREFERENCES AND ORIENTATION. RADICALIZE YOUR RELATIONSHIP BY IMAGINING YOUR WILDEST IDEAL PARTNERSHIP TOGETHER.”

-WENDY O’MATIK, REDEFINING OUR RELATIONSHIPS

The visibility and acceptance of open relationships is increasing. They’ve always been around in formal and informal ways, but running into them is becoming much more common. You’ll find folks of every sexual orientation and gender identity exploring different formats, and even finding pride in labeling their relationships in alternative ways.

But does non-monogamy live up to the radical hype?

Our relationships, non-monogamous or otherwise, are as radical as we are conscious. Ethical and intersectional non-monogamy asks us to move into our relationships with compassion, equality, and consent.

If we move into non-monogamy consciously, these alternative relationship styles challenge us to listen to our hearts and our partner(s) when something feels off. They allow us to evolve as needed rather than remaining stuck.

The truth is that there isn't one right way to be in a relationship — but society sure teaches us that there is.

This belief can have a wide range of effects on our lives. It can make us question the value of a relationship if it isn’t following the expected monogamous trajectory towards marriage (even if it’s fulfilling to us.) It can force us to place those closest to us on a value hierarchy scale that privileges romantic relationships over platonic ones. It can even romanticize jealousy and create unhealthy expectations around our partners being responsible for our happiness.

THIS WEBINAR IS FOR YOU IF:

  • You’re interested in non-monogamy but have no idea where to start.
  • You like someone who is non-monogamous.
  • You’re firmly monogamous but want to re-examine your beliefs about relationships.
  • You’re in a non-monogamous relationship but are noticing that similar oppressive structures/expectations are still present.
  • You struggle with jealousy in all of your relationships.
  • Your heart has just burst open because you fell in love twice in the same day!

In a time where fear, disconnection, and lack of empathy seem to be the status quo, this workshop is an invitation into a different way of thinking about love and relationships.

It will challenge our beliefs about power, priorities, jealousy and scarcity, and it will offer a framework of faith in abundance that is informed by accountability. We’ll discuss functional ways to communicate, make commitments, and work through the emotions that come along with re-defining the rules of love.

Are you ready?

Live Webinar Date:
Tuesday, August 7th
3PM EST/12PM PST, 90 min

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Dating and Sex After Trauma
May
22
12:30 PM12:30

Dating and Sex After Trauma

Reclaim your right to pleasure in your body and connection in your relationships.

The work of healing from trauma to reclaim our right to pleasure in our bodies and connection in our relationships is complicated, yet profound. Nurturing our ability to engage in a safe and empowering way with dating and sex can be both the agent of change in our healing and a symbol of the healing itself.

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Pajamas, Popcorn, and Porn: Slaying the Shame Monster Under the Bed
Mar
11
5:00 PM17:00

Pajamas, Popcorn, and Porn: Slaying the Shame Monster Under the Bed

The smorgasbord of internet erotica may leave us intrigued and ready for action, but have you ever wondered what keeps your porn consumption a private party for one?

When examining our identities, interests, and arousal, exploration is often halted by shame and stigma. In this workshop we’ll work to defeat these internal monsters. We’ll move from the repression of silence towards a more liberated and fulfilling format of self-exploration, communication, and interactions.

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Woodfull Sexual Freedom Summit
Aug
4
to Aug 7

Woodfull Sexual Freedom Summit

Cache Confidence


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Even the most sex positive individuals and providers may find themselves shy when it comes to personal browser histories. However, the adult industry flourishes with an abundance of diverse consumers and reasons for consumption.

Is it possible that breaking the silence around the consumption of commodified sexuality can decrease the shame we have around our own bodies and identities?

So excited to get to join the folks at the Woodhull Sexual Summit with a more social justice oriented format of our Clearing the Cache talk! 

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Summer Flow
Jun
27
6:00 PM18:00

Summer Flow

This will be a heated hatha flow class appropriate for the active yogi looking to lean into the energy of the summer season! Practice will utilize aromatherapy, be meditative in nature, linked to breath, and structured with the intention of grounding and centering. A quiet space will be observed in the practice room before class. You may want to bring a towel and extra water to this practice. 

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Love and Light Practice.
Jun
25
4:30 PM16:30

Love and Light Practice.

Dearest Deep Dog Community,

My heart has been so filled by my practice here at this studio. We have practiced so many Saturdays together in LOVE and LIGHT! I hope you'll join me for one more! Saturday, 6.25.16 @ 8:30am we'll join to Greet the Day together one more time! With music offering by Skye!

In love and light,

Traci 

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Summer Flow
Jun
20
6:00 PM18:00

Summer Flow

This will be a heated hatha flow class appropriate for the active yogi looking to lean into the energy of the summer season! Practice will utilize aromatherapy, be meditative in nature, linked to breath, and structured with the intention of grounding and centering. A quiet space will be observed in the practice room before class. You may want to bring a towel and extra water to this practice. 

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Contemporary Relationships Conference
May
13
to May 14

Contemporary Relationships Conference

Clearing the Cache: Demystifying and Destigmatizing Porn Consumption in Contemporary Relationships

There is a lot of work done around the problematic nature of pornography: how it represents our sexuality, what the acceptable amount (if any) it’s okay to consume, and the politics of the industry itself. Even the most sex positive of individuals, couples, and providers may find themselves a bit shy when it comes to our own personal browser histories. Still, the numbers remain the same. The industry continues to boom. There is a lot of porn being watched and not always by the demographic you might think. So why is there so much shame around it? If we’re all doing it, why can’t we talk about it? Is it possible that breaking the silence around the consumption of commodified sexuality might also shed some light on our most private pieces of identities and relationships?

  • Start the discussion around destigmatizing and demystifying our culture’s consumption of pornography.

  • Create a basis for the consideration that there are ways the consumption of pornography may have value and empowerment properties for the individual and the relationship.

  • Give some recommendations on how to open up communication about what we are drawn to, why, and how it can increase intimacy and self-awareness.

So excited to be heading back to ATX for the Contemporary Relationships Conference! I'll be teaming up with Kristel Penn of TAIF (Trans Adult Industry Foundation) and Grooby to talk about shame and porn consumption in relationships. 

Lindsay Lege, co-conspirator of Poly 101... Or 2... Or 3... will also be there doing a sneak preview of what we have in store in our online training! Hope you can make it!

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Trans* Conference 2016: "The Talk"
Feb
26
to Feb 27

Trans* Conference 2016: "The Talk"

I'm very excited to be presenting on the "Coming Out" process at this year's Trans* Conference at UC Riverside! 

"The Talk"

The "Coming Out" process has been picked up by media, television, and social justice campaigns. Documentaries and tell-all stories boasting the courageous nature of flying out of the closet are at our fingertips (and computer screens). While reflections of our stories are helpful, it can sometimes distract from the fact that the "Coming Out" process is a highly intimate, vulnerable, and functional process of how we take care of ourselves and build our support networks. This workshop will help participants clarify their needs/wants in coming out to different folks in their lives around gender identity and how to clearly articulate the pieces of their identity they are ready to disclose. 

Please note: This is a closed space for people who are Trans, Non-Binary, or Gender-Questioning.

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Contemporary Relationships: Queering Consent
May
15
2:00 PM14:00

Contemporary Relationships: Queering Consent

COM|PASSionate REVOLT is so excited to be a part of the Contemporary Relationships Conference 2015 in Austin, TX! The Contemporary Relationships Conference is dedicated to creating dialogue around the health and well being of our relationships and utilizes a unique format which invites conversation within and between single individuals, those in relationships and supportive professionals and allies! We'll be offering a workshop on: 

 We’ve come a long way from assuming consent based on the donning of denim and under the cover of marriage—and, yet, reverberations of the beliefs these inequities were steeped in still remain (around us and within us.) Furthermore, with the visibility of kink communities, non-monogamous relationships, asexuality, community produced pornography and acceptance of casual sexual encounters amongst friends on the rise, the rules of engagement have changed. Add in the use of toys, prosthetics, costumes and props, swirl it together with a little bit of light spanking, dirty talk, genderqueer tops/bottoms, tie it up in a lovely Shibari rope demonstration, and place that pretty little package in a dungeon, to challenge our beliefs about gaze and public consumption, and you’ve got quite the sexuality sundae intersected with contemporary relationships! Consent can get complicated, but it is invaluable to happy, healthy, fulfilling sexual (or asexual) relationships. In this workshop we’ll cover the following:  • Getting Down with Your Desires + Under the Covers with your Body Boundaries: Exploring cultural/societal forces on our sexuality, starting a dialogue with our bodies and articulating personal consent.  • Sexual Summit: Learning how to speak to and hear your partner(s)’ desires, needs and expectations around their body(ies), affirming language and acts and setting the rules of engagement.  • Cumming While Consensual: Incorporating (ongoing) consent into play that holds awareness of past challenges, triggers and traumas while also allowing for exploration, new growth and sexual fulfillment!

We’ve come a long way from assuming consent based on the donning of denim and under the cover of marriage—and, yet, reverberations of the beliefs these inequities were steeped in still remain (around us and within us.) Furthermore, with the visibility of kink communities, non-monogamous relationships, asexuality, community produced pornography and acceptance of casual sexual encounters amongst friends on the rise, the rules of engagement have changed. Add in the use of toys, prosthetics, costumes and props, swirl it together with a little bit of light spanking, dirty talk, genderqueer tops/bottoms, tie it up in a lovely Shibari rope demonstration, and place that pretty little package in a dungeon, to challenge our beliefs about gaze and public consumption, and you’ve got quite the sexuality sundae intersected with contemporary relationships! Consent can get complicated, but it is invaluable to happy, healthy, fulfilling sexual (or asexual) relationships. In this workshop we’ll cover the following:

• Getting Down with Your Desires + Under the Covers with your Body Boundaries: Exploring cultural/societal forces on our sexuality, starting a dialogue with our bodies and articulating personal consent.

• Sexual Summit: Learning how to speak to and hear your partner(s)’ desires, needs and expectations around their body(ies), affirming language and acts and setting the rules of engagement.

• Cumming While Consensual: Incorporating (ongoing) consent into play that holds awareness of past challenges, triggers and traumas while also allowing for exploration, new growth and sexual fulfillment!

Visit the Contemporary Relationships Website for more information!

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Trans* Asterisk Conference
Feb
27
to Feb 28

Trans* Asterisk Conference

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The COM|PASSionate REVOLT team is so excited to be a part of UC Riverside's 2nd Annual Trans* Asterisk Conference!

Our team will be a part of two workshops:

GATES AND GATEKEEPERS {Kaeti Gugiu, MFTi, Kristen Vierregger, MD and Traci Medeiros-Bagan, MFTi}

This program seeks to de-mystify the process of therapy, requesting letters and accessing medical care for transition via the experiences of providers working in an affirming care model. Participants will learn about their rights and gain skills in advocating for themselves when seeking any medical care. Each provider will give an introduction explaining their role and current practices and then participants will be able to ask questions to support their individual journeys.

**Closed Space: This workshop space is for people who self-identity as trans or gender questioning.

TAMING THE HULK: TEMPERANCE FOR THE TRANSMASCULINE JOURNEY {Skye Bigari and Traci Medeiros-Bagan, MFTi}

How does the transmasculine individual sort out the stories we hear about what it means to be a man, the stories we tell ourselves about what it means to be a man and the men that we actually see ourselves to be? Society’s narratives about men and masculinity affect our self esteem, body image, the way we take care of ourselves, what we expect out of our relationships, how we let our families treat us, what careers we go into, the trust we put in medicine to alter our internal and external bodies and ultimately our core identity. Through interactive dialogue and exploratory activities, together we will gain insight about how expectations surrounding masculinity before, during and “after” transition affect the development of an authentic and fully realized self.

REGISTER FOR THE CONFERENCE HERE!!!

In between our workshops we'll be checking out all the other great events! Check out the schedule here.

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Coffee Shop Covers for COM|PASSion
Jan
2
6:00 PM18:00

Coffee Shop Covers for COM|PASSion

Deep Dog Club Yoga, Joni Marie Newman of Just the Food and COM|PASSionate REVOLT welcome you to a night of Coffee Shop Covers for COM|PASSion! This will be an all levels appropriate 90 minute yoga flow to angsty coffee shop covers followed by a community dinner! Proceeds will go to Farm Sanctuary.

Class is by Donation! New Community Welcomed!

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Holiday Market, Elixer Bar, Potions Lab + Free Class!
Dec
12
7:00 PM19:00

Holiday Market, Elixer Bar, Potions Lab + Free Class!

Join Kaeti and the Califia Collective team in an opportunity to support our local Herbal Community and their amazing talents! This event will be very exciting! Local vendors selling and bartering their herbal and magickal wares, an elixir bar where you can make yoru own tea + potions and a free class on dreams where you'll make your own Herbal Dream Pillows. See you there!

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