Clearing the Cache: Demystifying and Destigmatizing Porn Consumption in Contemporary Relationships

There is a lot of work done around the problematic nature of pornography: how it represents our sexuality, what the acceptable amount (if any) it’s okay to consume, and the politics of the industry itself. Even the most sex positive of individuals, couples, and providers may find themselves a bit shy when it comes to our own personal browser histories. Still, the numbers remain the same. The industry continues to boom. There is a lot of porn being watched and not always by the demographic you might think. So why is there so much shame around it? If we’re all doing it, why can’t we talk about it? Is it possible that breaking the silence around the consumption of commodified sexuality might also shed some light on our most private pieces of identities and relationships?

• Start the discussion around destigmatizing and demystifying our culture’s consumption of pornography.

• Create a basis for the consideration that there are ways the consumption of pornography may have value and empowerment properties for the individual and the relationship.

• Give some recommendations on how to open up communication about what we are drawn to, why, and how it can increase intimacy and self-awareness.

So excited to be heading back to ATX for the Contemporary Relationships Conference! I'll be teaming up with Kristel Penn of TAIF (Trans Adult Industry Foundation) and Grooby to talk about shame and porn consumption in relationships. 

Lindsay Lege, co-conspirator of Poly 101... Or 2... Or 3... will also be there doing a sneak preview of what we have in store in our online training! Hope you can make it!