MHM 16: Contemporary Relationships Wrap-Up

In COM|PASSionate REVOLUTION,

Skye + Traci

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Skye is a youth worker, educator, activist and white transmasculine human. Traci is a therapist, yoga teacher, educator and queer vegan femme-inist of color. They reside, practice, navigate, survive and flourish in the Southern California area. The Mental Health Mash-Up is their offering of thoughts, process and tips towards mental health and wellness as queer folks navigating the intersections of stigma, oppression and identities.

MHM 15: Greetings from Austin!

May 17, 2015 in Community, COM|PASSionate Events, Mental Health Mash-Up

Hey all! Guess where we are?? We're enjoying our last morning in Austin, TX! We're writing this a bit ahead of time to get you the Mash-Up on Monday, but we're pretty sure the conference went awesome and we met some wonderful people! We'll tell you a bit more about that next week.

For the time being we wanted to share some COM|PASSionate Consent Worksheets we made for our little Queering Consent Playshop at the Contemporary Relationships Conference this past weekend!

First up! COM|PASSionate Preference Exploration Flow Chart

While "No, means, NO," is an important place to start in any consent conversation we realize that their are a multitude of layers underlying our ability to say, NO, clearly when we need to. There are also a multitude of layers that inhibit us from saying, YES, when we want to. This cycle multiplies and complicates with each level of intersection- especially for queer folks who spend a lot of time being told they're... well, queer (and not in the good way.) This COM|PASSionate Preference Chart can be used to neutralize and explore your interests, preferences, inclinations and, all out, turn ons. It's a starting point to "getting down with your desires and under the covers with your body boundaries," so you can start a dialogue with your body that informs how you articulate personal consent.

Here's an example of the chart filled in:

Next Up! COM|PASSionate Boundaries Worksheet

Now that you've flow-charted your way through any preferences that need a little more exploration you might want to start thinking about what your body/language/preference boundaries are over all. This chart can help you get organized about boundaries you might want to hold for yourself as well as things you might want to express to current or future partner|s.

Here's an example of the COM|PASSionate Boundaries Worksheet filled in:

Last, but not least! A quick COM|PASSionate Wishlist, Adventurous Ideas + Places to Avoid Chart

This is a quick way to document your preferences and boundaries for yourself or to share with a partner. This list is moveable, changeable and expires at the writer's will!

Here's an example of the list filled in:

So, until next time, we hope that you all have a wonderful week of consensual and fulfilling play and exploration with yourself and others!

Lastly, if you're still confused about consent but understand the etiquette of tea (or if you're anyone on this planet that interacts with anyone else on the planet) watch this video:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oQbei5JGiT8

As always you can reach us at…

compassionaterevolt@gmail.com

In COM|PASSionate REVOLUTION,

Skye + Traci

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MHM Ep. 7: Pausing for Self-Care

February 23, 2015 in Mental Health Mash-Up

Hello COM|PASSionate REVOLUTIONARIES and happy Monday!

We're sorry that the Mental Health Mash-Up is going up a little bit late today. Our schedules have been a little overwhelming recently... oh, what's today's podcast about you ask?

It's about how to pause for self-care when you start to get overwhelmed! Even when you're overwhelmed by lots of wonderful and healing community building and discussions!

You can listen here:

http://traffic.libsyn.com/compassionaterevolt/Self-Care.mp3

Or on our LibSyn Page.

So take a listen and then don't forget to come hang out with us this weekend if you're local! The Trans* Asterisk Conference starts Friday night and workshops happen on Saturday!

Feeling overwhelmed and need a little pep talk before heading out the door and onto the traffic of the 91fwy? Here's one of our favorite sources of silly internet self-care (Notice VERY Calming Manatee above.)

We hope you enjoy and we'd love to hear your thoughts!

As always you can reach us at...

compassionaterevolt@gmail.com

In COM|PASSionate REVOLUTION,

Skye + Traci

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There are photographs in this post that were borrowed lovingly from the internet and do not belong to us. All are linked and credited to the best of our abilities in hopes of attracting more traffic to the photographers and websites who have blessed us with this imagery. The inclusion of a photograph here should not be interpreted as an assertion of the subject's or artist's identity or beliefs. If there is a photo included here that belongs to you and you want it removed, please email compassionaterevolt@gmail.com and it will be removed promptly, no questions asked.

MHM 5: Visibility

February 09, 2015 in Community, Mental Health Mash-Up

Good Morning REVOLUTIONARIES! Happy Monday!

Today's Mental Health Mash-Up Ep5 is about Visibility. Skye and Traci will discuss the changing nature of queer/trans visibility in the media, the way we are in control and not in control of our visibility and the choices we make about our visibility that may or may not feel good to our bodies, brains, hearts and spirits.

As always you can listen here:

http://traffic.libsyn.com/compassionaterevolt/Visibility.mp3

or visit our Lib Syn Page.

Here are links to events/info we reference in the podcast today:

Link to our podcast where we discuss ID Change Support Information.
Link to our podcast where we discuss our Taming the Hulk workshop.
Link to the Trans* Asterisk Conference Blog/Website.

We hope you enjoy and we'd love to hear your thoughts!

You can reach us at compassionaterevolt@gmail.com

In COM|PASSionate REVOLUTION,

Skye (He, Him, His|They, Them, Theirs) + Traci (She, Her, Hers|They, Them, Theirs)

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There are photographs in this post that were borrowed lovingly from the internet and do not belong to us. All are linked and credited to the best of our abilities in hopes of attracting more traffic to the photographers and websites who have blessed us with this imagery. The inclusion of a photograph here should not be interpreted as an assertion of the subject’s or artist’s identity or beliefs. If there is a photo included here that belongs to you and you want it removed, please email compassionaterevolt@gmail.com and it will be removed promptly, no questions asked.

MHM Ep. 3: Disclosure

January 25, 2015 in Mental Health Mash-Up

Good morning REVOLUTIONARIES! We hope that you've all been safe and well this past week! On today's podcast we're talking about the complexities and intracies of disclosure and how we can make it more affirming for those of us doing the disclosure.

You can listen here:

http://traffic.libsyn.com/compassionaterevolt/MHM3_Disclosure.mp3

or on LibSyn!

We'll start with a word to our allies and the 3 C's of being safe places for folks to disclose to:

Be Conscious- Check your privilege, know this is difficult and know that you don't have the right to this information.
Be Considerate- Can you help everyone navigate physical environment safely, are you a safe person generally and are you using affirming and non-normative language?
Get Consent- If someone has disclosed to you, they have disclosed to YOU only. Be respectful and honor this information.

We'll also discuss planning the best structure for our disclosure, getting clear on our needs, getting clear on the space we have to educate others and how to communicate everything clearly and succinctly.

Here are some of the links that we mention in our podcast:

Thanks so much for listening! We hope that this was helpful and we'd love to hear your thoughts, experiences and resources as well!

In COM|PASSionate REVOLUTION,

Skye + Traci

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You can reach us at compassionaterevolt@gmail.com