Contemporary Relationships

MHM 16: Contemporary Relationships Wrap-Up

Hey Everyone! We're back from Austin! Actually, have been for a couple of weeks- sorry for the delay!

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We wanted to talk a little bit about our trip generally and also share some take-aways from the workshops that we attended. Below are the full titles, speakers names and any other link information we could wrestle up!

We feel so lucky to be able to share these resources with you and Austin treated us so well! Thanks Contemporary Relationships!

As always you can reach us at…

compassionaterevolt@gmail.com

www.compassionaterevolt.com

www.compassionaterevolt.wordpress.com

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In COM|PASSionate REVOLUTION,

Skye + Traci 

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Skye is a youth worker, educator, activist and white transmasculine human. Traci is a therapist, yoga teacher, educator and queer vegan femme-inist of color. They reside, practice, navigate, survive and flourish in the Southern California area. The Mental Health Mash-Up is their offering of thoughts, process and tips towards mental health and wellness as queer folks navigating the intersections of stigma, oppression and identities.

COM|PASSionate Events

Ahoy REVOLUTIONARIES! We're back from our Austin adventure and have so much to tell you! We'll give you more details on Monday's Mental Health Mash-Up!

Until then, here's some revolutionary activity to engage in over the next week and also some words of wisdom from Alabama Shakes:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ryqds_o17xU

EVENTS

Get out, take care of yourself and heal in community!

ANNOUNCEMENTS

Don't forget there's lots of upcoming ways to get involved!

  • California Women of Color Herbal Symposium is coming up on 5/22/15-5/24/15. It's  a little out of our budget but, oh, how our dirty hippie social justice inspired little hearts did a pitter patter when they noticed this event pop up! Check it out for us if you can!
  • All of these internet shenanigans too much? Need to digitally detox? How about checking out Camp Grounded: Summer Camp for Adults!
  • Gender Spectrum is coming up in July! "Gender Spectrum provides education, training and support to help create a gender sensitive and inclusive environment for all children and teens." They run an annual conference in Berkeley, CA for youth, families and professionals! Go check them out! Registration is now open! They are also looking for volunteers!

RECOMMENDATIONS

Some thoughts on feelings...

This Feeling {Alabama Shakes}

"I just kept hoping, I just kept hoping The way would become clear I spent all this time tryna play nice and Fight my way hereSee, I've been having me a real hard time But it feels so nice to know I'm gonna be alright

So I just kept dreaming, yeah, I just kept dreaming It wasn't very hard I spent all this time tryna figure out why Nobody on my side

See, I've been having me a real god time And it feels so nice to know I'm gonna be alright

So please don't take my feelings I have found at last So please don't take my feelings I have found at last Yeah, if I wanted to... I'd be alright

So I just kept going, I just kept going And hoping I'm growing near Well this good and fine, I spent all this time Tryna find my way here

And I've been having me a real fun time And it feels so nice to know I'm gonna be alright

Please don't take this feeling I have found at last Please don't take my feeling I have found at last If I wanted to, I'd be alright Yeah, if I wanted to, I'd be alright"

In feelings,

COM|PASSionate REVOLT

(Currently, sitting in being "alright.")

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*Events are put on by the CR Community/CR Community members. Other events are by friends of the CR Community or of interest to the CR Community. Feeling a little nervous about getting out and involved? Email us and if we can we'll make some introductions so you have a friendly face to say "Hi" to when you get there!

**Most of these events will be local to Southern CA (unless we notice an event that sets us off into road trip dreamland.) If you want to do a COM|PASSionate event round-up for your local area let us know!

***Are you an individual, meet-up or community group that has some COM|PASSionate events of your own? Email us for details on how to submit your event to our calendar!

compassionaterevolt@gmail.com

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MHM 15: Greetings from Austin!

Hey all! Guess where we are?? We're enjoying our last morning in Austin, TX! MHMBannerWe're writing this a bit ahead of time to get you the Mash-Up on Monday, but we're pretty sure the conference went awesome and we met some wonderful people! We'll tell you a bit more about that next week.

For the time being we wanted to share some COM|PASSionate Consent Worksheets we made for our little Queering Consent Playshop at the Contemporary Relationships Conference this past weekend!

First up! COM|PASSionate Preference Exploration Flow Chart

While "No, means, NO," is an important place to start in any consent conversation we realize that their are a multitude of layers underlying our ability to say, NO, clearly when we need to. There are also a multitude of layers that inhibit us from saying, YES, when we want to. This cycle multiplies and complicates with each level of intersection- especially for queer folks who spend a lot of time being told they're... well, queer (and not in the good way.) This COM|PASSionate Preference Chart can be used to neutralize and explore your interests, preferences, inclinations and, all out, turn ons. It's a starting point to "getting down with your desires and under the covers with your body boundaries," so you can start a dialogue with your body that informs how you articulate personal consent.

Exploration

Exploration2Here's an example of the chart filled in:

ExplorationExampleNext Up! COM|PASSionate Boundaries Worksheet

Now that you've flow-charted your way through any preferences that need a little more exploration you might want to start thinking about what your body/language/preference boundaries are over all. This chart can help you get organized about boundaries you might want to hold for yourself as well as things you might want to express to current or future partner|s.

CompassionateBoundariesHere's an example of the COM|PASSionate Boundaries Worksheet filled in:

BoundariesExampleLast, but not least! A quick COM|PASSionate Wishlist, Adventurous Ideas + Places to Avoid Chart

This is a quick way to document your preferences and boundaries for yourself or to share with a partner. This list is moveable, changeable and expires at the writer's will!

ListChartHere's an example of the list filled in:

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So, until next time, we hope that you all have a wonderful week of consensual and fulfilling play and exploration with yourself and others!

Lastly, if you're still confused about consent but understand the etiquette of tea (or if you're anyone on this planet that interacts with anyone else on the planet) watch this video:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oQbei5JGiT8

As always you can reach us at…

compassionaterevolt@gmail.com

www.compassionaterevolt.com

www.compassionaterevolt.wordpress.com

COM|PASSionate REVOLT FB

In COM|PASSionate REVOLUTION,

Skye + Traci 

———-

Skye is a youth worker, educator, activist and white transmasculine human. Traci is a therapist, yoga teacher, educator and queer vegan femme-inist of color. They reside, practice, navigate, survive and flourish in the Southern California area. The Mental Health Mash-Up is their offering of thoughts, process and tips towards mental health and wellness as queer folks navigating the intersections of stigma, oppression and identities.